My Mother's Getting a Divorce

My mom is pursuing a divorce from her husband, this is her second husband, and now her second divorce.

I came from her first marriage, BTW.

So basically, I'm losing a step-father. Yet, I don't feel like I'm losing anything. While he was my step-father, he never really bonded with me. I don't necessarily blame that on him. The reason why is because when my mom married him, my real dad would visit me every now and then, and we'd spend a weekend together. I think my step-dad didn't want to take his place out of respect.

I don't know when my mom's second marriage fell apart, but it fell apart a long time ago. They were married on February 12, 1976. I was there for the ceremony.

I think the death-knell of their marriage came when they moved from California to Colorado. At that point, my step-father lost all of his friends. When they were still in California, he had several friends from work, and from his old days in the Navy, coming over to visit, or they'd hang out at some bar.

But after moving to Colorado, he had to start all over again with making new friends. Except, he didn't make any new friends. I tend to think it's because he lost his social skills by that time. As he grew older, he just wasn't that spry, fun-loving guy he used to be.

So without friends, he became angry. And the more angry, the less social he became.

I guess I look at myself as I get older. Lisa and I are not the passionate, cute, and amorous couple we used to be. Lisa's declining health makes things difficult, and the flame just burns more slowly for us.

I hope our marriage lasts as long as we both shall live. We still manage to have lots of friends, and we make it a point to visit them and attend parties, and get togethers. Our friends is probably the biggest reason why we haven't yet moved out of Menifee.

Labels: Divorce

Posted:   Tuesday, October 02, 2007